My extended family did not know, or acted like they did not know my father had a big problem. The just thought he drank a few beers a day. I always wondered why they never questioned why my father would never come around anymore and why he did not talk to them often. There was one point where he had talked to my aunt. She had asked him to go visit my grandfather (who lives in another state) with her.
In a sober second, he told me about it and said he was excited to go because he has not seen my grandpa in a couple of years. My father seemed pretty adamant about going and I thought that FINALLY I would get a break from the tension he created throughout the day.
About a week before he was due to leave for his out of state trip. I had noticed my father had cut down his drinking dramatically. He was still drinking for the majority of the day, but not as heavily as his norm. The day before he was supposed to leave, he claimed he had gotten one of his infamous “migraines”. He told my aunt he was not able to go because he would could not ride in a car with such a pain in his head. So, instead of seeing his father he had not seen in years, he stayed home to drink away his migraine.