Over the course of the past few years dealing with the alcoholic in my life, I have picked up a few things along the way that has helped me better cope with my situation. I have learned to help myself stay focused on the things that I can control instead of draining my energy and resources on the things that I can not control.
I learned that the one thing that I can not control are the actions and decisions of someone else. In this case, I can not control the drinking habits of my father and I cannot persuade him to stop drinking either. What I can control is how I handle the situations involving my father when he is drinking.
For example, I can choose to remove myself from any negative conversations such as the drunken text messages that I have received. I have made it clear to myself that I will not put up with his drinking on any level and have made a commitment that I will not let his destructive ways interfere with my life.
From my experiences, I have vowed to help others, like me, deal with the alcoholic in their lives. If you would like to learn more about the methods I have adopted to help myself deal with my father, you can check out my book, “How to Cope With the Alcoholic in Your Life“.