One of the most important things I learned with my journey dealing with my alcoholic father is that I can not help him, my mom can not help him, my whole entire family put together will not be able to help him. He has to be the one who wants to commit to helping himself, or he will never fully get out of this state of mind.
I have realized that the more people who tell him he needs to get help, the more he will resist. Basically, if he is convinced that he needs to get better and go to rehab, he may try to go to rehab, but will end up right where he is right now. If this happens, he will never fully get over his addiction. However, if he makes a commitment to himself, this commitment will be more sincere and he will have his own desires to change his life for the better.
It is a hard thing to deal with an alcoholic. I feel that if he will continue to do what he pleases no matter how much my family and I beg and plead for him to stop. With that said, I have realized that I might as well try to help myself overcome the obstacles that result from dealing with an alcoholic and let him find his own path to recovery.